Sugar Daddy Dating - When BDSM Goes Wrong

Sugar daddy dating has increasingly become a societal norm with different forms of the dating scene taking centerstage in different aspects. This has brought about dating scenes such that the BDSM which has been reviewed both positively and negatively in almost entirely similar quantities. But what is BDSM and why are a large chunk of population across the entire world against it? Well BDSM dating is an acronym that stands for Bondage, Discipline/ Dominance, Submission/ Sadism and Masochism. This is a combination of terms that depict a relationship, mostly sexual that encompasses a lot of slavery and masterism in it. It has been popularly depicted in the 2015 box office hit '50 Shades of Grey'.

In the modern world a lot of BDSM dating is present especially in sugar daddy - sugar baby relationship where the sugar daddy often is dominant of the sugar baby because of the higher pacement of the sugar daddy within the relationship. This gives the sugar daddy an upper edge making them dominative and superior to the sugar babies who will in turn have to be 'enslaved'; listening and following everything the sugar daddy says. The sugar daddy world depicts dominance due to the financial muscle power that comes with it. The sugar babies have very little say in the relationship whatsoever. It is very vital to note, though, that these activities have to be consensual and any other similar unconsensual activities would be deemed as infringing on other people's right and thereby becoming illegal. Take, for instance, the shocking case of Tech Executive Sanjay Tripathy who hit the headlines after stories of him allegedly raping and physically abusing a call girl hit the headlines and dragged him through the judicial system for a long period of time.

The Story of Sanjay Tripathy and the Call girl

Like we initially stated, without consent, BDSM relationships and sexual relations could go awfully wrong. After a night out between Tech Executive Sanjay Tripathya and a call girl whose name was hidden because of the nature of the case, the two retreated to a four-star hotel in New York known as the W Hotel. The evening was quite good for both of them until Sanjay started expressing his fantasies to the lady. It was not a big deal to her until the violence started which scared her to the core. This is the typical first sign of non-consensuality.

The sugar baby, who Sanjay got from Seeking Arrangement, claims that once they got to their hotel room, Sanjay threw her onto the bed and immediately pulled down her tights. He then started inserting his fingers into her and her pleas for him to stop fell on deaf ears. In fact, her cries to him made him even angrier and violent making him punch her mercilessly. The lady revealed to the court that on that night in June 2016, she was very sure that she was going to die. Sanjay even went ahead and threatened her that he would have anal sex with her if she did not consent silently. All the while she was chocking her and hitting her on her face while pulling her hair. Her cries got even more louder and the violence increased in intensity.

"It was a really terrifying experience for me and I do not think I will ever recover from it." The Norwegian blonde told the court during the trials for Mr. Sanjay. It was even harder for her to make a run for her life as Sanjay was way stronger and always a step ahead. The lady claims that although the night started as a BDSM date, what she went through was nothing short of rape. Even when she tried to make a run by lying to Sanjay that she needs to go to the washroom, Sanjay accompanied her to the toilet and watched her pee. Her attempts to even run out of the room were futile as she ended up falling and being dragged back to bed by Sanjay. She claims even her screams for help through small cracks on the door led her to being gagged. She literally could do nothing to help herself out. She also claims she attempted to call the front desk by taking the phone off the receiver but Sanjay noticed and hung up the phone and permanently disconnected it till the following morning. This BSDM date went so awful for the lady, she claimed she saw her blood gushing out of her mouth before landing on the neatly pressed white sheets Further, Sanjay allegedly raped her all night forcing her to perform oral sex on him.

According to the lady, the following morning, Sanjay threatened to kill her if she dared to go to the police and report the incident. Video surveillance from outside the hotel shows a distraught lady in tears coming out of the hotel and heading straight to the NYPD van parked across the street. In the entire encounter, the lady ended up with a bloody nose, split lip and a broken tooth among other injuries.

This is a typical case of a BDSM gone wrong. Despite Sanjay claiming that the entire exercise was consensual, he ended up being charged with assault and rape among other charges. Sanjay, in his defense, said that it was midway through the consensual BSDM encounter that the lady claimed she needed to be paid more exorbitant prices. This angered him making him refuse to pay her until they reached a comsensus on the prices. The lady then threatened to blackmail her, according to Sanjay's legal team. Despite the fact that the lady was found on the website SeekingArrangement.com, she claimed she was neither a call girl, escort nor a prostitute. There is a lot of inconsistency in the case for both parties but this is a pure case of a BDSM date gone awfully wrong. One needs to take a lot of caution when it comes to such dates and general relationships. Respect and mutual consent is paramount.