Seven Reasons I Can't Be a Sugar Baby

| Tracey Tong

not a sugar babyYou can’t argue the lovely feeling that comes with having creature comforts. There’s definitely something to be said for having access to great food, beautiful clothes, to be taken on world-class holidays and to live in homes usually only seen in magazines.

Sugar babies would get all of these things that’s why a lot of young girls are turning to sugar daddy sites. But while some girls like to be taken care of, the lifestyle isn’t for me. They come at too high a cost – my pride and self-esteem. I’d rather be true to myself and come by these things my own way, and on my own steam, and if I can’t, I guess I’m going to have to do without.

Here are seven reasons why I can’t be a sugar baby:

  • I can’t share my man with another woman

    What can I say? I’ve never been good at sharing. If I go out with a man, I need to be his one and only. Not only does this reduce my chances of catching an STD, it’s just a basic respect thing that I don’t want be on any STD dating sites. I need to know I’m the only one he’s thinking about.

  • I like being in control in a relationship

    When I feel strongly about something, I like to be able to express my opinion. I go where I want to go, when I feel like it, without having to check with someone. Being a sugar baby would take away those freedoms, and that’s something I can’t stand for.

  • I can't bear asking any man for money

    I’m proud of the fact that I’ve earned everything that I own. If a man I’m seeing wants to give me gifts, that’s lovely. But while I’m perfectly able to earn my own money, I promised myself I won’t be asking a man for money.

  • I love what I do for a living and I'm good at it

    I love the feeling of being accomplished. My career is a big part of who I am, and I have no intention of quitting my job to be at someone’s beck and call.

  • I don't dress for any man

    Being a sugar baby would mean that I’d have to dress to please the guy. He likes silky lingerie? That would mean I’d have to spend my days in itchy silk teddies and impractical shoes. Right now, I dress the way I want, which is for comfort, and no man has anything to say about it.

  • Once I'm with a man, I would hope the relationship to last forever

    Let’s face it – sugar baby and sugar daddy relationships are based on superficial things, like appearances, status and money – and none of those things are permanent. When I take the trouble to date, I want it to at least have the potential of leading towards something serious.

  • I have my own opinion

    Once again, if I have something to say, I’m saying it. Our forefathers didn’t go through all that trouble for me to not express my opinion! I have the feeling that sugar daddies want their sugar babies to disagree with them, and my opinion isn’t something I can hold back.